Appropriate Resolutions for life’s relationships.

Text Box:  ANGER: Let it go, forgive, and move on.

       Holding on to anger, resentment, and hurt, will only give you tense muscles, a headache, and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth.


       Forgiveness gives you back the laughter and lightness in your life.


       Once you’ve reached that point, away from the flame, you can then approach the triggering issue with rationality and cognition.


       Then, by searching for mutual understanding and applying the doctrine of acceptance, you will resolve and be able to move on.


Yes. . .Anger Does Have A Purpose!

      Anger is neither good nor just is! The consequences however, may have a price in terms of your stress, your ultimate wellbeing, and certainly will affect your relationships when expressed at a ’targeted’ person.




THE WHAT:  Anger is a physiological, psychological or emotional response  to an external or internal          stimulus which one perceives (and learns to label) as threatening,  frightening, embarrassing,           hurtful,  frustrating or irritating !!!

THE WHY:    Survival, Culture, Communication, Motivation, Psychological protection

· Anger blocks fear; a child returns home late; the angry parent blocks fear through an angry response. Emotions blocked by anger may include sadness, guilt,  shame, feelings of failure or  unworthiness.    

· Anger may cover-up those feelings of frustration when one perceives that needs and interests are unachievable.

· Anger may be a response-tool to a perceived threat when one feels attacked or   controlled. Conversely,  anger may also be a control-tool  to control or frighten       others.


Anger and defensiveness by Ben Adkins


      Occasionally we all get angry or defensive. The problem is, destructive anger keeps us from performing effectively and breaks down relationships. It would be great if we could just say to ourselves, "STOP THAT!" and not get angry anymore. However, I've found that usually doesn't work.


On the next page are a dozen tips that can help you deal with anger and defensiveness.

More about managing anger…  

Text Box: Anger as soon is fed is dead;  'Tis starving makes it fat.    - Emily Dickinson

Website table of contents  and Joseph Ravick …  links to what’s on this site and who I am.

ABOUT Conflict...  What conflicts look like…

DisputesWHAT DO DISPUTES LOOK LIKE,  and how do people react or respond when conflicts escalate into disputes? (the many faces of conflict),.

COMMUNICATION & CONFLICT  Definitions, terms, jargon

CONFLICT RESOLUTION TIPS AND GUIDELINES: Strategies and behaviours for you to apply when in conflict.

CONFLICT CHRONICLES: Original stories by Joseph Ravick with a common theme. The chronicles feature real-life conflicts describing the people, their relationships, and the outcomes which they experienced whether they liked it or not.