Appropriate Resolutions for life’s relationships.

REMEMBER WHEN? A simplistic example of what is meant:

      Remember when you graduated from your tricycle to a new two-wheeler. You started learning how to ride, not really knowing how to do what you needed to do. Maybe you had a parent's helping-hand to guide you and training wheels to keep you from falling.

      Then the training wheels came off as you adapted to riding on 2 wheels; you were thrilled (at least I was). Your speed slowly increased as did your confidence and balance. You might have wavered, fallen off once or twice as you tried more than you could handle, but you got up and kept trying and learning. Then one day, you were racing your friends, jumping and doing wheelies without a thought or concern. You had moved from Unconscious Incompetence to Unconscious Competence.


      Think back about when you started doing any tasks you can now do so well. How did it feel the first time? Now review your learning process. That’s how it works for most of us.


An excerpt from an article by Terry Brock, 
published in the RESOLVER, April 2008 edition

       I love learning. And what I've learned about “learning” is that knowledge acquisition is not enough. As John Locke told us, "Reading furnishes the mind only with materials of knowledge; it is thinking that makes what we read ours.” (John Locke 1632-1704). We also have to think, to assimilate and to implement, making full use of information. We need to ruminate over new ideas and concepts for them to have maximum benefit. Attending seminars is only the beginning. This is the knowledge acquisition phase, only the first step. We can't stop there.

       Assimilation is the next important step. To make something ours we have to understand it and fully "grok" it. Groking, a concept that Robert Heinlein introduced means that you not only understand something, but you fully grasp its meaning and ramifications. This assimilation means that you've thought about it and it "makes sense." It is now yours. However, that is not the end either. If you give up here, all you do is ‘feel smarter’.

       Implementation is the next important step. Applying the new-found knowledge and information to something that is practical. Remember that knowledge acquisition alone won't do the job if that is the purpose behind your ‘learning’. Determination and persistence require knowledge assimilation and implementation if you want to produce results. 

Text Box: “LEARNING TO MANAGE CONFLICT … An Adult Learning Continuum” 
Text Box: "Performance is different. You can take classes all your life, and rehearse forever, but you make more progress in one performance than you do in a year of lessons. Performance is the actual thing. The other stuff is getting ready."  - ROBERT B. PARKER

Website table of contents  and Joseph Ravick …  links to what’s on this site and who I am.

ABOUT Conflict...  What conflicts look like…

DisputesWHAT DO DISPUTES LOOK LIKE,  and how do people react or respond when conflicts escalate into disputes? (the many faces of conflict),.

COMMUNICATION & CONFLICT  Definitions, terms, jargon

CONFLICT RESOLUTION TIPS AND GUIDELINES: Strategies and behaviours for you to apply when in conflict.

CONFLICT CHRONICLES: Original stories by Joseph Ravick with a common theme. The chronicles feature real-life conflicts describing the people, their relationships, and the outcomes which they experienced whether they liked it or not.