Appropriate Resolutions for life’s relationships.


       So you want to resolve conflicts more effectively; if you're sincere and committed to such a 'mission', to building and maintaining relationships in the face of conflict, I urge you to consider answering the following questions:


· Can you combine and balance tenacity with tact? Have you in the past?

· Can you assertively present your needs while NOT standing up for yourself by trying to 'force' your views? Do you attempt to dominate the other? What has been your pattern when challenged in the past?

· Can you remain flexible and assertive? Do you and have you, normally?

· Can you separate the issues, the differences between you, from the person or people? How have you viewed those you’ve differed with in the past?

· Can you explore alternative options without thinking or feeling that you're giving in? Is this what you normally do when you differ with someone? What been your normal reaction in the past?          

              These questions are really about your dominant behaviour when challenged by conflictual situations. They reflect the do's and don'ts similar to those proposed by Fisher and Ury of The Harvard Negotiation Project. When we reflect on our answers, honestly, they provide us with indicators about how to better manage the confusing and often debilitating effects of conflicting human impulses, or compulsions.


         The most important thing we also learn from our ‘considered’ answers is what we don’t know and need to learn to become more competent. But only if the revelations are internalized, integrated, and remediated; when the new approaches becoming 'second nature'. If you're wondering what you might have to go through, follow the link below to  a guide which resonated for many clients and adult learners over the years. 

        How competent do you believe yourself to be when it comes to resolving conflicts while maintaining functioning relationships?  Where would you place yourself on the learning continuum after reviewing past and current relationships, in effect your past experiences. You will need to confirm one key element to your competency development first; self-honesty!  Remember, “reality IS the bottom line.”       More about how we learn...

Text Box: Learning how to manage conflict 
takes more than a workshop for most of us... 

...given how many conflicts and disputes remain unsatisfactorily resolved.

Website table of contents  and Joseph Ravick …  links to what’s on this site and who I am.

ABOUT Conflict...  What conflicts look like…

DisputesWHAT DO DISPUTES LOOK LIKE,  and how do people react or respond when conflicts escalate into disputes? (the many faces of conflict),.

COMMUNICATION & CONFLICT  Definitions, terms, jargon

CONFLICT RESOLUTION TIPS AND GUIDELINES: Strategies and behaviours for you to apply when in conflict.

CONFLICT CHRONICLES: Original stories by Joseph Ravick with a common theme. The chronicles feature real-life conflicts describing the people, their relationships, and the outcomes which they experienced whether they liked it or not.