Appropriate Resolutions for life’s relationships.




Strategically Plan to make your vision(s) into reality.



Take the vision and make 'broad' (long-term) and 'specific' (short-term/situational) plans for making your vision a reality.


Notice and reflect on the relationship dynamics at the time. Focus on yourself, the other(s) & the how you currently relate/interact.


once you've decided what the 'envisioned' relationship needs to look like for your satisfaction, do a S.W.O.T. analysis of your current 'relationship' reality:


Strengths: the relationship's, as well as yours, his/her's/their's in terms of relational values.


Weaknesses:  the relationship's, as well as yours, his/her's/their's in terms of relational values.


Opportunities: how those involved could relate differently to produce different outcomes;


Threats… like the APES©, which might get in the way of a functioning relationship.  



NOW…make your vision(s) into reality.


        As the opportunities present themselves, pause then respond mindfully, putting your plans into action while remaining flexible so that you can effectively respond to unexpected dynamics within the changing relationship. Once again, your reality will be your bottom line.

Website table of contents  and Joseph Ravick …  links to what’s on this site and who I am.

ABOUT Conflict...  What conflicts look like…

DisputesWHAT DO DISPUTES LOOK LIKE,  and how do people react or respond when conflicts escalate into disputes? (the many faces of conflict),.

COMMUNICATION & CONFLICT  Definitions, terms, jargon

CONFLICT RESOLUTION TIPS AND GUIDELINES: Strategies and behaviours for you to apply when in conflict.

CONFLICT CHRONICLES: Original stories by Joseph Ravick with a common theme. The chronicles feature real-life conflicts describing the people, their relationships, and the outcomes which they experienced whether they liked it or not.  




When I feel responsible FOR others:

· I fix, protect, rescue, control, and carry their feelings.

· I feel: tired, anxious, fearful, and liable.

· I am concerned with: solutions, answers, circumstances, being right, details, and performance.

· I try to manipulate.

· I expect the person to live up to my expectations.


When I feel responsible TO others:

· I show empathy, I encourage, I share, I confront, I level, I am sensitive, and I listen.

· I feel: relaxed, free, aware, high self-esteem.

· I am concerned with relating person to person, with feelings, with the other person.

· I believe if I just share myself, the other person has enough to make it.

· I am a helper, a guide.

· I expect the other person to be responsible.

· I trust and let go.